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Just a quick check-in to say: computer/phone/tech upgrades suck. But I'm getting there. Look, ma! Internet browsing: go! Moving on.

Best thing about yesterday was McDiva announcing that she now has the perfect comeback to the "why don't you smile, sweetheart" question to which females are so often subjected. "The patriarchy." Of course! Why didn't all of us think of that a million years ago?

I'm still catching up from taking a couple of weeks off to go to Oregon/Washington and look at colleges with McDiva. It went better than I expected, as I feared she would balk after one tour and refuse to go on. But no! She actually enjoyed parts of it and was able to articulate what she liked and didn't. The academics at one school were very appealing, the facilities and staff in the costume department intriguing at another, the degree program (but nothing else) very close to perfect at yet another. Also, the costuming department heads were swooning over her work, which hasn't even been officially put into portfolio format. I think she's going to ace this college thing!

It didn't hurt that the thrift shopping in Portland is excellent, or that Dear Old Dad took us to movies and plays pretty much every night! Besides which, Portland is an excellent, exciting food town these days, with lots of young people flocking there and putting on a show opening a restaurant/food/truck/artisanal pickling plant or whatever tickles t their fancy. So fun. We saw lots of relatives and friends while we were there, although I always wish there was more time to do that part of things. Our last activity of the trip was attending Taming of the Shrew at the Oregon Shakespearean Festival in Ashland. Big fun! The production had a "boardwalk" theme, and the tech was awesome, with interesting use of projection and a live band in an onstage balcony to punctuate the action. Petruchio was a hot-rod, rockabilly guy, and you just know that things are going to work out when he discovers Kate's hitherto hidden sleeve tattoo. Hee.

We visited the grave of my stepmother on Memorial Day. Her mother died the previous week. My former stepfather died last Tuesday. That'll do, universe. There will be no memorial service for my step-grandmother, as she had outlived anybody who might attend and specified that she didn't want one. The funeral for my stepdad is tomorrow. I will see lots of people I haven't seen in decades, and probably will never see again. I have some mixed feelings. He took terribly, suddenly ill a few months ago, with the same bile duct cancer that killed Ray Manzarek recently. He was in the not-old/not-young zone, and with no possibility that he'd get better, we all (him included) wished for as painless an end as possible. He married his delightful companion of 20 years about a month ago, which will make things easier for her, I hope. Everybody got a last visit. It will never be sufficient but is better than not getting one. He was a decent guy, smart and slightly strange in an altogether understandable (to me) way. I feel I had some things I should have made up to him at some point, since he put up with all my teenaged shenanigans — and even let me drive his Camaro in the '70s! — and I'll never get the chance now. We were good though. I'm glad that he won't suffer any more. But.

In fandom news, I fluffed my [community profile] seasonal_spuffy day, which was the day after we got back from our trip. But the story is about 2/3 of the way done, I promise. I might've finished it in time for free-for-all day, but spent all day Saturday with a new friend who just finished watching Buffy for the first time. We went to Much Ado About Nothing, watched Dr. Horrible's Sing-along Blog, the Shakespeare Retold version of Taming of the Shrew, had dinner and then watched the Firefly pilot. It was a bit much, but she's young. Heh. I'm going to get back to the story writing...between tech support calls, work, jury duty, doctor's appointments, etc. We all need moar fic, amirite?




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petzipellepingo
Jun. 13th, 2013 07:26 pm (UTC)
Goodness, you have been a busy bee.
rebcake
Jun. 13th, 2013 07:29 pm (UTC)
It's been a bit of a sprint, lately. Maybe July will be calmer? Nah.
debris4spike
Jun. 13th, 2013 07:30 pm (UTC)
Goodbye is hard to say, isn't it? Although it sounds as if your stepdad is now at peace. A hard time - but many memories will be spoken.
rebcake
Jun. 13th, 2013 08:48 pm (UTC)
I think I'm emotionally prepared, but OMG I'm such a crier! Even when you know things are for the best, it's still not what you want, you know?
brutti_ma_buoni
Jun. 13th, 2013 08:04 pm (UTC)
Bless McDiva. It is indeed always the Patriarchy (has she been reading Caitlin Moran, perchance?).

Except when it's death, of course. Sorry a sucky pile of losses have piled upon you and yours. Even if of full age or getting to say a good farewell, it's still too much all at once for one family.

Stay safe, keep smiling (except in case of Patriarchy Blues), and any time you want to post a story, we'll be reading.
rebcake
Jun. 13th, 2013 08:59 pm (UTC)
has she been reading Caitlin Moran, perchance?

I'm pretty sure that McDiva is only reading Tumblr while summer vacation marches on. ;-)

The spate of deaths only really doubly affects my brother and I, as both families are "steps" and based in different states. Frankly, the step-grandmother came as a surprise, as everybody thought she was too steeped in venom to ever die. So there's that. She was 95 and active right up until the end. She'd called one of her sons to make a date to go to a museum in the AM; in the PM she was dead. It's hard to have many regrets in a case like that. When my great-grandmother died at 92, while still living independently in her house, I wasn't upset, even though we were close and she was an absolute darling. A life well lived is really something to celebrate. It's the cut-short ones that hurt, as you well know.

I am, alas, a congenital smiler. I'll probably never get the chance to use McDiva's comeback. *iz sad, but still smiling*
zanthinegirl
Jun. 13th, 2013 08:55 pm (UTC)
That is a whoooole lot of losses, and way too close together. I'm so sorry!

Glad you guys had a good time in the PNW; I miss portland! I love a lot of things about Seattle, but Portland is home in a way Seattle isn't. And hopefully our unusually nice spring coincided with your trip!

Jealous of Ashland. Did you get to see taming of the shrew on the outdoor stage? I try to get down to the OSF every few years, and was hoping for this summer. Well, maybe this fall...
rebcake
Jun. 13th, 2013 09:03 pm (UTC)
Thanks, sweetie! We're dealing pretty well, I think.

The ToS production is actually indoors at the Bowmer. There are some interesting things on the outdoor stage too, of course. We just had time for one play, though. Go! Once you're up to it!
goldenusagi
Jun. 13th, 2013 09:06 pm (UTC)
perfect comeback to the "why don't you smile, sweetheart" question to which females are so often subjected. "The patriarchy."

Awesome.
rebcake
Jun. 13th, 2013 11:21 pm (UTC)
I'm so proud. Makes me want to go back and read "Checkpoint: the Patriarchy Macros"! But then, nearly everything does!
goldenusagi
Jun. 13th, 2013 11:23 pm (UTC)
teh patriarchy iz coming

:)
cindergal
Jun. 14th, 2013 12:36 am (UTC)
So sorry about your Stepdad. *hugs*

The patriarchy, heh. ;-)
eilowyn
Jun. 14th, 2013 03:53 am (UTC)
So sorry for your losses, and don't worry. I was at a conference on my posting day, and I kind of forgot about the free for all day. I'm a terrible mod. But I expect McDiva could see herself in Portland. Is she still looking at costuming/fashion?
cordykitten
Jun. 14th, 2013 08:39 pm (UTC)
*waves hi*
Sorry about the sad news.
shapinglight
Jun. 15th, 2013 04:50 pm (UTC)
Hi there. So sorry about your stepdad.
kidcyclone
Jun. 24th, 2013 01:49 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your losses. I hope things settle down for you, and heartily endorse your plans to do more writing.
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